‘Actual Housewives of Orange County’ alum Gretchen Rossi and her fiancé, Slade Smiley are getting dragged via the mud for paying tribute to Slade’s late son … as a result of the organic mom claims Gretchen and Slade have not even been round for him within the final decade.

Slade’s ex, Michelle Arroyo tells TMZ … Gretchen’s current social media posts in regards to the lack of 22-year-old Grayson are disrespectful — saying the couple has “grossly misrepresented the true nature of their relationship with Grayson, which was just about nonexistent.”

Grayson handed earlier this month after an extended battle with mind most cancers — one thing he fought since he was 6. Since his loss of life, Gretchen’s been posting nonstop about how heartbroken she is, however Michelle is looking BS.

She tells us Gretchen and Slade have not made the hassle previously 10 years to see him … calling a so-called relationship “nonexistent.”

On high of that, Michelle, who has misplaced her residence, enterprise, and life financial savings whereas solely taking good care of Grayson’s wants, says she will’t preserve quiet any longer about Slade’s years of “inexcusable habits and neglect,” including Grayson desperately wished a relationship along with his dad.

Michelle provides she needed to rent attorneys to get Slade to cough up his youngster help funds — claiming he nonetheless owes $152K in help, along with his final fee coming in again in 2019.